The older I get, the more I realize my parents were just winging it too.
CYNIC
Oh, congratulations, you've discovered the human condition. Next you'll tell me water is wet. Parents are just bigger kids with credit cards and anxiety, winging it since the dawn of time.
STOIC
Recognition of shared fallibility is a step toward compassion. Your parents did what they could with what they knew. Now you see them as they are, and that is enough.
ABSURD
So you've peeled back the curtain and found... another curtain, and behind that, a parent-shaped cloud, and behind that, a tiny office with a manual titled 'How to Fake It Till You Make It', signed by the universe.